Sometimes when I get frustrated with an issue, I will search for more articles about it. Codependency has been really hitting me hard over the past week or so. Thus, the link above is a result from such a search.
What I really like about this article is how it highlights the anger and frustration codependents feel as caregivers. It summaries common traits of a codependent and emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries.
Some highlights:
One of the codependency-signs is that if you ask a codependent what she wants, she simply has no idea.What surprises me is the impact of being around fighting and chaos. I have often downplayed my feelings and such because I was not directly being physically harmed. But I guess being immersed in such an environment would still play a role.
Underneath the caretaker role, individuals with codependency are some of the angriest people you will ever meet.
Codependents come by their behavior honestly...they usually come from a background where things were out of control. Maybe they grew up in an alcoholic family, or in a family where parents were angry and fighting all the time, or they were victims of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, or violence. Or they were harshly criticized or ridiculed and made to feel small.
We cannot simultaneously set a boundary (a limit) and take care of another person's feelings.
Great aritcle. Appreciate you sharing it dear one. So very you struggle, as I do with this awful stronghold. I pray that you too will be released from its grip.
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co dependant relations in our experience have bene the least healthy and most time consuming eventually sucking us into a vortex and making us so damn depressed. We hope you dont get to that stage
ReplyDeleteMy parents themselves were not sexually abusive nor physically abusive but there was a lot of chaos. They were always yelling at each other. I was a very sensitive child and this upset me a lot. They have been married 50 years and are still always yelling at each other. My son doesn't like to go over there because of the judgmental behavior and the yelling. You can't teach old dogs new tricks sometimes.
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